- June 30th, 2013
So. Apparently I am overdue for a Random Rambling, so here I come with one! As usual, this is not intended to offend, it is a rant moreso in relation to a personal experience (based loosely on, not directly derived from, I like to be vague and avoid personal data for the most part), but in true fashion to all of my Random Ramblings, it is a topic up for discussion! My one rule: NO FLAMES! This is intended to be kept civil. You may state opinions, and you may contradict me. I welcome it all. Read on:
Today's topic will be Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow children. Well, not just them, but they are the hot commodity that people resonate with. In a nutshell, the special waves of children that came here with gifts that are often misunderstood by their parents. The parents of these gifted children are often broken down into three groups; the ones that understand what they have in their gifted brood, and know how to properly rear these gemstone souls, the ones that just don't get it, which can branch off into subcategories that will be covered later, and the ones that are misdirected about it, and go overboard with the 'special/gifted' child thing, and ultimately do their child a great disservice. There are two main topics with this I would like to cover, being the ones that just don't get it, and the ones that overdo it. I feel the ones that DO get it really don't need to be covered quite as deeply, but if at the end of this Rambling I'm feeling it, I will give them a Kudos paragraph as well, so we'll see.
The parents that just don't seem to know what it is they have in their children, often really hurt them without even meaning to. That may not always be the case, as there is most definitely a plethora of varying circumstances that occur within this category of parents, but the ones that do hurt these children without knowing it, often do so, because they, themselves, may not believe in the sort of gifts that these children can posess. Oftentimes, parents that come from a background with no real give toward supernatural or metaphysical variances in ability, power, gift, or whatever term you want to apply to these talents harbored by these children, cannot find it in themselves to nurture such skillsets in their children, MUCH less to believe them when they make the claims to have them in the first place. Granted, it is a reckless and foolish endeavor to simply take at face value that a child has any variation of psychic power if you are a person grounded in logic, but there are ways to check it. One thing you do not ever want to do is make your child feel as though they are strange, unloved, or defective because of these gifts. Even if you do truly believe your child to be nutters, do NOT tell them that they are crazy or weird. That will only serve to damage their fragile esteem, and foster a distrust with you as a parent. They need you, and they need to feel like they can trust you, and like they have your support, no matter what. If you do think they need help, get them checked, sure. Just please, for the love of all creation, don't break apart their ego or that sacred bond that they form with you. Words are more powerful than you realize, and they can have a lasting effect. Trust me, I know this problem first hand. My parents and I had a falling out multiple times in my childhood, and all of it was over differences in religious beliefs, and the fact that I did believe in psychic abilities, and possessed a few myself. They finally started to believe me, but mostly because the same gifts they looked down on, saved my sister's life twice. Unfortunately, the damage they caused with their words was too much, and the bond of trust was permanently damaged. I have forgiven them, but I will never have the sort of trust in them I had as a small child. This, mind you, is a culminated effect over time, and does not happen from one or two isolated events, but I use it as a word of caution: DO NOT GET CAUGHT IN THIS PATTERN. Your children look to you for their help and guidance, as well as for a role model and a source of strength and comfort when the world outside is too much, and the pain feels unbearable. If you are hurting them as well, where else can they go to feel safe? That is surely bound to cause lasting psychological scars, and it's something you don't even realize you did, because the child won't tell you it's happening. Half of the time, the child doesn't know that they need to say it. They feel they can't tell you, and they withdraw, or other reactionary issues can come of it, such as unfounded rage, fear, or depression. Is that worth it, because you thought you could intimidate the 'weird' out of your child? I'm not saying that if you think your child has a mental condition you should encourage it, but you should watch your words and actions, and never make them feel as though you think they are defective. They NEED YOUR SUPPORT! Parent 101: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! Unconditional means just that; NO CONDITIONS, so STOP JUDGING when is appropriate to love your young. Just because they are different, difficult, or slip up, no matter the severity, or even if they deviate from what you wanted for them, does not mean you should ever love them less.
On the inverse side of this, there are the parents who whole-heartedly understand the metaphysical nature of the gifts these children possess. They are very proud to be the parents of these talented souls, and they, in opposing fashion, go overboard, with making these children feel like the special beings that we know that they are. True, these souls are special, but they do not need to be pet up as superior to everyone else. If you rear a child to believe they are above everyone else, they will not be able to handle it when they leave your bosom and enter the real world for the first time. In their isolated existence, they now have it firmly affixed in their minds that they are superior, and their wills are what everyone should accomodate. When they get out to society, they get a rude slap in the face that they don't understand, and it is hard to cope with. They often fight it tooth and nail, and don't know what to do when posed with the social structure of the universe not actually revolving around them like mommy and daddy said it did. It's a fast track for failure in a lot of ways, and really leads to a painful transition for the children. Kind of seems unfair to me, to bring a child up to believe that they are above everyone else because the possess a different set of skills and talents, just to have them crash and burn when they leave your protective custody for real life. Most people that bustle about in day-to-day society won't care or will think you're off your rocker if you told them you were better than they were because you happpen to be an Indigo, Crystal or Rainbow, or any other variation of lightworker or volunteer wave. It's really best to groom them to understand their gifts, to hone them, but to also know how to integrate into society properly. It is more fitting to teach the children how to balance their spiritual and otherworldly lives with their physically grounded lives in this realm as well, after all, we are stuck here for a given amount of time. We may as well know how to properly function here.
Apparently I am feeling generous, so here is the Kudos section to the parents that DO get it. Bravo to you all! You are most likely lightworkers yourself, or just well-schooled people that happen to be possessed of an open mind, heart and soul, with the grounded mind and principles to properly balance these children, and teach them well. You are most definitely deserving of accolades, I just wish I were able to properly credit you all. I do apologize for this section being so short, but really, there is not much I can say here, aside from you already know what you are doing, and spelling it out would be pandering, and an insult to you, so I will not go there.
As parents, in general, everyone makes mistakes. This I get. I would be an absolutely daft person to think otherwise, and I know that, but the trick is to acknowledge them. You make them, note it and learn from it. Your children are not stupid, believe it or not, and will more than likely, appreciate and respect it, if when you botched it up, you apologized and learn from it. Like all things in life, you burn yourself, you learn not to play with the fire again. The same rule applies with your children. If you find yourself doing something that is disrespectful and/or hurtful to your kids, acknowledge it, learn from it, and engineer a different approach to the situation. Kids are clever, but you really should be able to come up with ways to outfox them. If your kids can get the better of you that easily, it's time to re-evaluate your tactics. You need a new game plan. The biggest thing is, don't be afraid to admit you made a mistake, particularly when you know it hurt. The apology, when it's heartfelt, goes a long way, and, here's the big thing, LEARN FROM IT!!! Remember, agree with it or not, your kid is different, and they NEED you. Be there for them, and try thinking of it from their perspective; how would I feel if my parent(s) reacted this way to what I said/how would I feel if my parent(s) said this to me? Think about that before you say something potentially hurtful to an already very sensitive child.